Wednesday, 27 April 2016

9 ways to get your anger out

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Angry woman
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Anger is a negative emotion that affects the growth of a person. Showing your anger may make you feel very powerful at first, but can have a long-term negative effect on you as well as others. Since anger is invisible; you often spend your time and energy in dealing with the ill effects of your outburst rather than self-examining the root cause of this mood change. One has to deal with anger scientifically at the grass root level. Here are some proven steps

1. Deeply analyse yourself when you begin to feel angry.

This is the first step to controlling your anger. One has to identify what your anger is about, notice the situation around you, and notice the thought that comes along with it. Most importantly notice also the warning signals that you get as the aftermath of anger. Reasons for getting angry could be many like anyone touching your ego, problems at work or school, stress, traffic jams, money worries, and relationship conflicts are some of the unpleasant situations normally trigger anger.

2. Try to restructure your thoughts that help you be calm.

This means changing the way you think or react whenever you come across any unpleasant situation. When you are angry, your thinking can get very wild and over dramatic. You tend to curse, swear, or speak in a highly rough tone that hurts them. The best way to tackle is to alter your thoughts when you are about to get angry. Always keep watching your mood, alert yourself the moment you lose temper on others, and react logically. Logic defeats anger, even if anger is justified.

You might have observed that most angry people are always demanding in their approach. They are very stubborn in nature and feel great joy in getting things done their way. However, very often the responses they get from their counterpart are disappointing. Such people react very quickly instantaneously displaying their frustration and disappointment in the form of harsh words. Angry people need to become aware of their demanding nature and translate their expectations into desires. For instance, try using "I would like" something is healthier than saying, "I demand" or "I must.”

3. Change your place to calm your anger.

Sometimes our environment may be a cause for us to trigger our anger. For instance, if you are in a meeting with your juniors, and you expect them to prepare some answers to the questionnaire that you have circulated. The responses from them would be unsatisfactory, not meeting your requirements; obviously, this situation can trigger your anger. Be calm; take your time to respond, just walk out of the room in the pretext of going to the washroom or a to drink a glass of water. Return and tackle the situation smartly.

4. Try some yogic relaxation techniques to ease your anger.

Slow deep breathing is a very good way to relax. Inhale as deeply as you can through your nose. Expand your stomach and chest, and then exhale through your mouth. Ensure during inhaling your nostrils are clear for air passage. In case, you feel your nose blocked try some mild workouts like jogging in the same place and then restart the breathing exercise. Perform the breathing in and out for a couple of minutes whenever you get angry.

There are good courses available on the internet that helps you practice this safe relaxation technique. Renowned yoga gurus have also released CD’s that guide your thoughts to serene places through imagination thereby relaxing you. On hearing the soothing music, chants and mantras, you forget yourself and imagine yourself in a different world.

Hatha yoga, a form of yogic non-strenuous postures, help you stretch your muscles and calm the entire body.
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